grandparent dilemna

[miamio]

My daughter and fiancee went overseas.They left their then 3 year od with me for 3 weeks.I had them get a notarized statement that if anything should happen to one or both of them,they would want us to have custody and medical POA.well something DID happen and they are now incarcerated there for the next 4-5 years.I notified SSD,Access etc of the situation with my daughter and the little girl is still getting health insurance.I just signed her up for kindergarten and had no problem.I was not questioned.My problem with all of this,is making my own will and designating other family members to take her in case we are deceased,as well as what happens if my daughter is deseased over there,her loser father gets out and wants her?(No one in his family has contact with the child,including him).I have been supporting both of them in there for th epast 14 months and just stopped helping him.Someone told me that the document I have is binding,as no one else would dispute custody.No need for a guardianship.I wanted him to terminate his parental rights,but my daughter is balking.She is enabling him.He is a lousy father and could not take care of her.My daughter has made it known,we ,or my family would have her.(he also signed the original document that was notorized.I need to know if I need anything else,or another document to be done again,without a lawyer/court? Or is what I have ok?No one is cintesting any of this.I just hate her father and his dysfunctionl family and want to protect this child.They do not even contact him,much less the child! alot can happen within the next 4-5 years.What should I do?:confused:

[growing-n-grace]

It this really about your grandchild?

I noticed that you talked very badly about the father;however, your daughter is rigth in jail with him...so if he has a loser family, does she have a loser family also?

I am not trying to degrade you because I do not know any more than what you'd told us, but my advice to you is check yourself for your motives, pray and then proceed in the child's best interest.

Why are you so determined to have the father rescinf his parental rights, but not youe daughter..evenmoreso, your daughter will still have contact with this child, but the father will not?

Pray again.

Finally, as per legally, you have the right to file after 6 months, because the child has been in your care long enough to establish grandparent's rights.