Child custody issues/no court yet

[heatherleigh777]

For those of you that don't know me, I will explain what is going on. My ex and I have a son and we were never married. He left me for another woman when my son was almost two. We have been separated for about a year. I was staying with Jennifer and Zach (may they be blessed for I have much gratitude!). I finally got my bills paid and have my own place. Me and my son's father had a verbal agreement. We decided to keep this out of the courts. He would pay me child support and I would allow visitations. Me and his father got in an argument over visitation since he keeps him most every weekend Friday and Saturday nights. A little background for his father is he is an alcoholic and likes to party all the time. He is known to use other means of entertainment if you know what I mean. That is why we could not stay together. I did not want my son to grow up around those things. Well he decided to take it upon himself to take my child from me. I have not since him since 04/02/2009. I take that back. I had a minute to see him Sunday at his grandmother's house. But trouble happened there and I should not have gone by myself. I was "allowed" a supervised visit. I saw my ex girlfriend and told her "She was not the biological mother and she needs to stay out of it". I walked into the home to see my son. His grandmother was in kitchen cooking. Next thing I know my ex gets in my face screaming, hollering, and cussing. His sister and his mom (son's grandmother) had to restrain him from putting his hands on me which left bruises on his mom. I told the police what happened. Of course five witnesses against me said I put my hands on his mother. So I don't go anywhere near them without a tape recorder and a witness.

I have went to the police but all they can do is a "civil standby" so I can ask for him back. I filed a CPS report to make sure the house was clean and they were not smoking in the house and car due to my son's respiratory issues. Of course they called one back on me saying I abuse my son which is not true. You can ask Jennifer and Zach. I was too lenient with my son. I also filed child support.

Issue is I have no money to get a lawyer. None and my ex knew that. So I have applied with legal aid and am waiting. They say it takes up to 10 business days. My case is complicated so I am not sure I can get a free lawyer for it.

What I need is anyone to send a prayer or send some positive energies my way. I love my son and it hurts everyday. Some days worse than others. I have to keep working and keep struggling. It seems like time has slowed way down for me and I wish it would hurry up so that I may have my son in my arms again. Before he went with his daddy somehow I knew something was about to happen and I gave my son a hug, a kiss, and told him I loved him. Please if anyone out there can help me, please. I have no family to go to. JC is all that I have. Jennifer and Zach have been my strongest allies but I could use anything that I can get. Please send positive energies my way if anything-everyday if you can. Thank you and bless every one of you!

[givemebackmysummer]

i am a 40 yr old man. i had a daughter with a woman to whom i fell in love with almost 16 yrs ago.i was with her for a year before our daughter summer was born.she means the world to me.during our relationship i found out that she had been cheating on me.when i confronted her,things got bad and i left.that is where my trouble began.i tried to get visitation rights legally and filed paperwork.since i was working a lot and my mail hadnt been transferred to my new address yet,she did not inform me of court dates,and moved to nevada.i did not see my daughter for two yrs after that.when i would call child support and ask where they were they said they had to get permission from the mother to give me the address.as soon as they notified her,she said yes,and then moved again.i didnt see her for another two yrs.thats four yrs altogether without any contact.i had tried through her family and friends,but they seemed to be helping her hide summer from me.when my daughter was about 8 yrs old she found my phone number and called me.first time in about 5 yrs that i had even talked to her.from then on we have tried to stay in contact with each other.she doesnt really enjoy living with her mother because of the way she lives her life.moving all the time and having so many boyfriends at one time that she cant keep them straight.summer will be 16 in august and wants to move to ohio with me.her mom is one big road block,but,that is why i came to this site.keep your head up and just keep talking to your son.hopefully he will see as he grows up that his mommy loves him and some of the things that were done to him were not your fault.kids learn a lot from watching their parents.summer and i have gone yrs without contact,but,she still loves me unconditionally.hope you have the same outcome.good luck and i will be praying for you.god bless you!